My Best 5 Tips to Be More Feminine You NEED to Know

“Being more feminine” can mean a lot of different things, which is exactly why this topic feels confusing. You might like softer details, but you don’t want to feel costumey, overly dressed, or unlike yourself. You also don’t need to change your personality, your lifestyle, or your whole closet to show up with more feminine energy. The goal is simple: choose styling signals that feel natural on you and repeat them consistently.

A common misunderstanding is that feminine style equals pink, heels, or tight silhouettes. It doesn’t. Feminine dressing usually comes from shape, fabric, grooming, and small finishing touches that create softness and intention.

In this article, you’ll get five practical tips you can use immediately, even if you live in jeans most days. You’ll learn how to pick silhouettes that flatter without feeling restrictive, how to use color and texture to soften an outfit, and how to add accessories that look refined instead of fussy. You’ll walk away with clear options, not vague advice.

Tip 1: Take Feedback With Grace

This is such a work in progress. When someone tells you you’re incorrect or didn’t like how you did something, it’s SO easy to get defensive. That’s your ego – that person inside saying “hey, they shouldn’t be talking to you this way, there’s no way I’m wrong.”

Being feminine means dropping your ego and really listening. Have you ever seen someone told the honest truth and their first reaction is getting defensive? That’s not what a feminine woman practices. She doesn’t NEED to be defensive or get irate when corrected.

Taking feedback with grace means being open-minded enough to say: “You know what? That’s not offensive. I’m not taking offense. Let me listen intently.” It’s controlling your emotions enough not to take offense when people give tangible feedback.

You don’t have to CHANGE anything just because someone said it. But not having that ego up, not having a comeback ready – there’s power in listening. It will change how people look at you when you can stay relaxed, stay calm, and receive feedback. Game changer.

Tip 2: Read the Room (Watch Your Volume)

So much of being feminine is having proper etiquette. Knowing when you’re at a high-end restaurant or public place to watch your volume. Being mindful of how you act in spaces amongst other people. Respecting elders, young children, everyone around you.

Have you ever seen someone be irate and loud, not caring about anyone else in their space? That is NOT the embodiment of a feminine woman. You can have fun while still moving with grace and being respectful.

This also applies to arguments. Let me say this clearly: just because you are loud does not mean you are correct. I know, hard to believe. Being feminine means communicating and getting your point across WITHOUT raising your volume to where you lose your mind.

You cannot be taken seriously if you just get irate without being able to articulate why something bothers you. The feminine woman harnesses her emotions, reads the room, and communicates beautifully depending on the situation. Think twice before getting irate. Take a moment, step back, think before responding. Keeping your cool is part of being THE woman.

Tip 3: Dress for Your Figure

This is something I’m learning and loving every day. Wearing REAL clothes – not going everywhere in sweatpants and workout clothes. Being mindful of what’s on your body.

There’s something so feminine about putting yourself together even going to the grocery store. Being in Dubai opened my eyes – there’s a culture of femininity here. Women want to wear dresses, everyone is put together. When I go to the mall, I don’t see anybody in sweatsuits. Same in Europe: you never know where you’re going, who you’ll meet, what conversations you’ll have.

Whether we like it or not, people judge based on perception. If you’re not put together, dressed inappropriately for the environment – people will cast judgement. There’s something beautiful about throwing on concealer, blush, jeans and a nice top before the grocery store. That’s not “trying too hard” or “pick me” – that’s being aware you’re the embodiment of your inner work.

It boosts confidence too. When I’m out in a sweatsuit with no makeup and a hat, I’m less likely to engage with strangers. That’s just the truth.

Also – there’s been this hypersexualization telling women we need to wear skimpy clothes to be attractive. Not true. You can be sexy AND elegant. Some of the most beautiful women dress put-together without showing every ounce of skin. It’s how they carry themselves, how they speak. So beautiful.

Tip 4: Care About Your Body and Wellbeing

Being feminine and caring about yourself means the inner work represents in the outer work. If you love yourself, you take care of yourself. To be feminine IS to love yourself.

Nourish your body. Eat healthy foods. Have energy. Wake up feeling like life is great – that starts with eating the right things. You don’t want to consistently be drinking, eating processed food, soda, burgers and fries. Eventually that catches up in how you feel, how your skin looks, your energy levels.

To love yourself is to take care of yourself. We have ONE vessel, one body. Caring about wellness means caring about the food you eat, the lotion you put on your body, the rest you get. Women actually need MORE sleep than men – 8 hours is so important.

When I see a feminine woman, I can tell. It’s how she’s dressed, how she takes care of herself, how intentional she is. Wellness is self-care. Self-care is femininity.

Tip 5: Body Language

This one is SO important – something you can actively work on daily. Body language is readable from a mile away.

Sit up straight. People who slouch and crouch don’t display confidence or femininity. It displays discomfort, maybe insecurity. It’s not good for your spine AND not good for how people view you.

The way you walk. Pick up your feet, don’t drag. Display confidence through your movement.

Be open to conversation. Not having the RBF (resting face), not trying to act hard or give “don’t speak to me, I’m better than you” energy. The feminine woman is kind, loving, open, humble, understanding.

Hand motions. Always talking like THIS, doing all of THAT – it’s not giving feminine. It’s giving aggressive. Being in someone’s face, snapping fingers – just be mindful of how you move when speaking.

A More Feminine Look Comes From Soft Choices, Not a Whole New Wardrobe

Femininity looks different on everyone, so you’ll feel your best when you treat it like a styling dial you can turn up or down, not a strict rulebook. The easiest way to look more feminine fast comes from softness, shape, and finish.

Here are 5 tips you can use immediately:

• Choose one soft element per outfit. You can add a satin skirt, a floaty blouse, a cardigan, or a gentle color. One is enough to shift the vibe.

• Create a waist moment. You can front tuck your top, add a belt, or wear a cropped layer. Waist definition reads feminine because it adds shape without needing tight clothes.

• Pick fabrics that move. Cotton poplin, chiffon, soft knits, and drapey trousers look more feminine than stiff, boxy fabric.

• Keep your details small and refined. Delicate jewelry, a simple hair clip, or a neat manicure does more than loud accessories.

• Balance softness with structure. If you wear a flowy dress, add a structured bag. If you wear a blazer, soften the look with a scoop neck top or gentle color.

Common mistake: you try to look feminine by adding ruffles, bows, and heels all at once. That usually feels like a costume. You’ll look more feminine when you keep the outfit simple and add one intentional soft touch.